What It Means To Be Sincere To Your Spouse healthy relationship tips

Sometimes it so happens that we accept our life partner as he or she is only for two or three or four or five months according to our capacity. We say that I will accept you as you are. It replied that this is not a problem at all as I am also a late riser. Then he or she said something else and you said that this is also no problem. 

You don't have any problem with anything and you accept him or her as he or she is in the first few months of marriage. After that you change and don't accept him or her as he or she is.  Rather you love your life partner of your dreams and not your real life partner.

 You give him a challenge that if you   become what I want you to become, only then you will be something in my eyes. You should accept him as he or she is and as Allah SWT has awarded him to you. Love him or her as he or she is and persevere your relationship. Spend your life by making a common goal of self-reform and self-cleansing. This is the right way. This is true that I also have a lot of faults and weaknesses in me and you can also have the same. 

 Our gracious Lord has made everyone responsible for self-purification. I should try to correct the imperfection in me and keep an eye on me and you should keep an eye on yourself and remove the imperfections found in you. One of our responsibility is to identify the blemish and weakness and impurity developing in us and try to remove it. The second responsibility given to us by our Gracious Lord is to become mirrors for each other. 

The responsibility of one Muslim on  another Muslim is to be a mirror for each other. What is a mirror? It gives open feedback. When the mirror shows that there is some  blemish on your face or you are not looking perfect, you don't break the mirror. What do you think? You look into the mirror and see the blemish and remove it. 

A Muslim has been given the responsibility of being a mirror for his fellow Muslim. To give him the feedback in a way that he does not break his nose and still give him fair feedback. What do you think? Moreover, husband and wife are like a dress to each other in addition to being a mirror. Not only they are mirror to each other but a dress for each other as well. So the relationship between husband and wife has the potential for mutual self-purification resulting from a good relationship between them.

 And this is not possible with any  other relationships because there is a limit to which you can show a mirror to someone and see yourself in his mirror. But with husband and wife, this not so. If we develop a yearning that both of us along with our children and all our relatives should land in paradise then life become totally a different life.

But if we develop and longing for getting Canadian immigration as soon as possible then the life becomes entirely different. So the difference is between the choice of immigration and the life becomes entirely different. What do you think? 

The acceptance is eluding is us.  The acceptance was there during the first 

three or four months and after that we 

kept on cherishing the life partner of  

our dreams and kept on demanding that. And we kept saying to her why don't you try to become a better version of yourself, which exists in my mind. If she tries to achieve that then it is fine, otherwise it is very bad. This is a very common problem.