What is the basically Decline of the Etiquettes of Love?

Right now what's happening is that 

we're spending such busy lives that relationships are being neglected and that has lead to many problems. Let me give you a situation If I tell you that  100 years from now a person is told to use a service called Sentiments to present a flower to his lover. He has to download an app and choose his flower. 

He would choose a rose for his beloved and insert a verse by Ghalib in it. How much satisfaction and happiness he would get by doing this? I think if you say this to a person 100 years ago, he would kill you saying that he himself would be the one to give that rose to his beloved. It is our matter, who are you to intervene, and what is this service in between? 

And you'll say that a time will come 

that you'll be so busy and every moment 

of yours will have a price 

 

If we go even further back 

300 to 400 years ago 

if you tell someone that the rose you want to gift your beloved will be picked up from the farm by someone else and he has it arranged on his table 

you 

and then you can give it to her 3 to 4 hundred years back even this would cause resentment.

He would want to go to the farm and pick the rose for her himself with his own passion and desire and give it to her with his own hands it would include all his emotions and sentiments within. But if we fast forward to the life now.

There was a time when we would buy the flowers, then some time later services came into being that would transport the flower at home while you work in the office. Later, even this seemed arduous why not send these beautiful emojis as gifts? 

It shocks me many people come to me to discuss their matters I asked someone, have you ever recieved a gift from your wife or you- here I am talking about the couple that came to me to share their problems they told me that yes I sent a gift 

I asked "you sent a gift? Doesn't she live 

with you?" 

 He said yes she does live with me but 

I come home so late 

she's asleep by then 

so I chose a service and placed an order.

They'd deliver the cake to the house 

the perfume to the house 

something else to the house. 

That's where we are standing right now 

Even the expression of love 

is made possible through money 

I keep thinking why this is happening 

A big reason is that 

work and things have become 

more important than humans. We keep thinking about material things how we can make this or that better we're really busy in our work. 

We need to come out of this. We need to think that when comfort is being added to our life what is being subtracted? And we have to take out time for our children our parents and our siblings. We have to take out time for ourselves. And a result of not having proper understanding of ourselves is that the human has grown very fond of praise there's an extreme urge to hear praise in today's human, in fact he thinks it's his right to be praised.

If I ask you 

how can you keep your beloved happy without praising them or spending money? 

If I ask this

If I keep this condition that you can 

either spend a penny nor praise her 

but you have to win the heart of your wife, 

or your husband 

or your kids

or your parents 

we cant figure it out because we have 

we have forgotten all those etiquettes - 

what we call civilization, 

is that which keeps the etiquettes of love 

and character elevated above all. 

That's what culture teaches us. And the sincerity in it is very important. But right now, materialism has done a lot of damage