Why Today children are not taking interest In Housework?

The question I have received is that these days children do not help their parents in household chores. What should we do in this case? If your child has heard you say to him that you don't do anything "You don't do any work" It will become hard for him to do any kind of work. But if your child does not do a lot of things, but does a few things around the house. And you acknowledge him that Subhan Allah,  Alhamdulillah you have done this work. And you are happy with the little bit he has done.

This will make it easier for him to become more involved in work. Sometimes we verbalize all that he is not doing. Don't let him be known for what he does not do. If your child is known for not doing his work. It will become easy for him to avoid doing it Once a lady came to me to discuss her child's problem. She said that my child does not hear anything

At first I thought he had a hearing problem  

So I said "if it's a hearing issue, why have you come to me?" She said "he can hear everything but he does not follow my instructions" I said alright, and started the discussion with her. During our conversation, her phone rang She looked at me, I said you can take your call.

She said it's my son calling. I said you can take your call. 

On the call she talked to her son 

she said I have sent you the car and after you're finished send the car back to me 

Then do this and that... She gave some instructions to her son on how to do certain things.

When she ended her call I asked 

was this the same son about whom you said he doesn't listen to anything? She said yes, it's the same one. I told he you should reserve Uber or Careem because he will not send the car back to you.

How can you be so sure he will send the car?

She said no he will send it 

I said just a few minutes ago you said he doesn't listen to anything. So it's not like he doesn't listen to anything Actually the statement that he does not listen to anything is an overstatement. The first thing is that he can hear everything Some things he follows and And a lot of things he cannot follow the way you want him to.

So if you have made your child famous for not listening to you - 

his claim to fame is that he does not listen and does not follow instructions, then he will do exactly that. But if you acknowledge him for whatever little bit he does then InshaAllah he will do more

There are two reasons for this problem. 

The first is that the child has become addicted to screens. He has become severely addicted to something because of that an imbalance has been created. Every so often he returns to what he is addicted to whether it is screen or anything else he returns to the same thing which takes up a lot of his time.

Beside that thing he is not interested in anything. 

When a child is addicted to something, He does not want to do anything besides what he is addicted to That is the first problem. If this is the case, it needs to be fixed first. The second reason is that the child who is feeling hurt with whom we do not have a good relationship

He is feeling irritated. 

The child who is feeling irritated will not want to do anything It will be difficult for him to engage in any activity. The person whose heart has lost it's spark will find it difficult to work. The third reason can be a natural inclination to procrastination or laziness in temperament. This can be the third reason. If you want your child to be involved in household chores then you must acknowledge what he is doing and however much he is involved.

Sometimes he is doing a little bit and not doing a lot, 

we talk a lot about the lot he is not doing. But we do not acknowledge the little bit he is doing. Please acknowledge the little bit he is doing. This is the first point. The second thing is if he is addicted to something he needs to be taken out of the addiction.

In the same way if your relationship with him is not right then fix the relationship. 

So he can become involved in the work you are doing. Sometimes we give the child instructions but when we do something with them it becomes easier for them.

 So sometimes try to involve them in your work It will make things easier. If you feel they are becoming lazy or procrastinating then you need to see if there is physical activity in their routine or not. Or what are their food choices.

Sometimes unhealthy food choices or lack of physical activity creates laziness in the child's temperament. So these are the matters we need to observe And acknowledge the work they are doing